Do you have a growth mindset? Or a fixed Mindset? And what is the difference?
Do you empower those around you? Or do you inadvertently enable them?
Growth Mindset: “In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.” ( Dweck, 2015)
In a fixed mindset, people believe their qualities are fixed traits and therefore cannot change. These people document their intelligence and talents rather than working to develop and improve them. They also believe that talent alone leads to success, and effort is not required.
Fixed beliefs that you have about yourself will hold you back from making any positive changes in your life. If you believe that something cannot be changed about yourself, such as your weight, your self worth, your intelligence, your health, your success, or even your social anxiety, you will likely avoid situations that will (or might possibly) be uncomfortable. There is no room for growth here.
On the other hand, if you embrace the idea that your habits and abilities are not set in stone, then you are well on your way to creating actual change in your life. Whether it's learning a new skill, trying new things, breaking or stepping away from bad habits, or simply putting yourself in social situations that might make you otherwise run for the hills, having a growth mindset will help you form the belief that you are 100% capable of accomplishing any goal.
There is a saying that great things never happen in our comfort zone. This is true. If we are never uncomfortable, we stay unchanged and unchallenged. Sometimes even though we mean well, we are the worst at this, especially with our loved ones. Sometimes we take this protective behavior to the extreme and we unfortunately become enablers, as we do not want to see the people we love uncomfortable or struggling, really with anything. This stifles any possible growth. Stifling growth is not an act of love, even if we mean well and have the best intentions.
Lets look at the difference between enabling and empowering…
Enabler: one that enables another to achieve an end especially : one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior (such as substance abuse) by providing excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behavior.
Empower: to encourage and support the ability to do something. To make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their own life.
One of the best reasons for creating a sense of community is to help each other grow. There is nothing more empowering than simply knowing that others are constantly cheering you on with your struggles, constantly wanting you to succeed, constantly pushing you to your greatest potential (even if it is hard as hell and horribly uncomfortable and kind of loud and ugly and sometimes even painful), and then being able to return all of that empowerment right back at everyone around you. Its pretty satisfying.
Two questions to ponder every day this month:
Each morning take a few minutes to reflect and ask yourself if you are setting your day up to have growth mindset or fixed mindset. It is really a simple as choosing one or the other.
At the end of each day ask yourself if you are enabling or empowering others around you.